Monday, December 03, 2012

The Ben Franklin Effect

I periodically find great info on Forbes. (It's not just about money.) This site and magazine is smart, and some of the articles add great quality to your life. I recently found this one on the Ben Franklin effect. Entitled "Do Me a Favor So You'll Like Me: The Reverse Psychology of Likeability," the concept comes from Ben's quote:

"He that has once done you a kindness will be more ready to do you another than he whom you yourself have obliged."

So... when you help someone, you tend to like them more. Take a nice, soft moment and think about that. Who have you befriended before? What do you think about them now? It's so true.

I think it boils down to the fact you are accepted. You dare to step outside of your ruts and reach out to someone. You've let your guard down. 

When they accept your hospitality, they've complimented you, accepted you, endorsed your decision. So it's safe to help again.

You've also reached a common ground. You have something the other person needs, and you reach a mid-point where you can shake hands and make something right. It's almost a personal contract between two people.

Things you can do to help people in the writing world:

1) Buy a book
2) Leave a review
3) Recommend the book to others
4) Write the author and thank him or her for writing the book

I can honestly say that I remember those readers who've reached out to me and complimented me on Lowcountry Bribe or FundsforWriters. Not sure who's helping who in this regard, but the symbiotic relationship works.

Those who email me, leave reviews, leave messages on Facebook, and Tweet back and forth with me are, in my eyes, charitable people helping me to remain a writer, become a better writer.

I've helped them in my own small way, and the fact they responded favorably to my effort makes me love them dearly. So I want to help them more.

From the reader's angle,  they've helped me, and can see how their support has enabled me in so many ways, and they want to help me more.

It's why I leave reviews on Amazon and Goodreads. Someone helped me with his words and needs my help to become a success. I'm glad to help.

Yeah, confusing at moments, but guess what? It works. It's basically asking for help, getting it, and the giver makes a connection he wants to preserve. He "gets" what the other person needs, and loves being able to provide assistance.

That has to give you a warm and fuzzy feeling.


Sioux Roslawski said...

Hope--You reminded me that I had not yet written a review for Lowcoountry Bribe, which I just did.

Thanks for the post. These days more than ever, writers have to support other writers.

Karen said...

This is so true! I feel connected to people who I've never met through their blogs and my blog. It's amazing how much I like commenting on blog posts that say something to me. Your blog helps me in so many ways! Keep on writing it.

Hope Clark said...

Thanks, y'all. For the review and for the compliments. I'm happy these blog posts speak to you.

Christina Lee said...

Such a lovely post. Annnd you made me open my Goodreads account and play catch up right NOW. So thanks!

Anonymous said...

I think I am confused about your statements as to reviewing books. Did you mean to imply that ALL reviews should be positive, even if the reader doesn't think the book met his/her expectations? I am happy to give credit where it's due, but I also don't want to give a false impression to future readers. Thanks for the clarification.

Hope Clark said...

Dear Anonymous

Of course not. Do not leave a false review. However, I'm not one to leave a bad review, either. I figure the quality of the positive reviews or lack of reviews will tell a reader whether to make the purchase more than a negative which does more to reflect on the author of the review than the author of the book.