Thursday, December 01, 2011

Your Own Name . . . Your Own Story

I once asked my nine-year-old son how his day went at school. He had an important project to turn in, as important as a fourth grade project can be, and he'd worked hard on it.

"Fine," he said, never one for embellishments.

Eager for details about how my eldest son has bested his class or amazed the teacher, I asked, "How did you do compared to everyone else?"

"I don't know," he said. "I was only worried about mine."

I'll remember that lesson till the day I leave this earth. A young boy, educating his mother on what was most important. All too often, we rank our success based on others' achievements . . . others' goals instead of our own. That's a no-win race.

Our goals should not be to write as well as your favorite best-selling author. There's nothing wrong with analyzing his work and learning from his prowess, but we don't want to be Stephen King the second or Tess Gerritsen, Junior. The last thing we want is to be compared to JK Rowling or James Patterson.

We want others to be compared to us.

Groom yourself instead of striving to be someone else. Set your goals. Write your story. Publish it your way. Sell as many as you want . . . or as few. Put your own name on writing success, and be happy with who you are.

6 comments:

widdershins said...

"We want others to be compared to us"
... I like that!

Civil War Horror (Sean McLachlan) said...

Smart kid! Yeah, only compete against yourself.

Carol J. Alexander said...

Hope, I tell my little boys all the time, "Don't worry about your brother, worry about yourself." And now you tell me the same thing and it sounds so profound. That is because I needed to hear it. Thank you.

Fi said...

Love it! (Directed here by blogger Nancy Kopp)

Sioux said...

Out of the mouths of babes...

Karin Fuller said...

Just copied and saved this one, highlighting the part about "We don't want to be compared to Stephen King...We want others to be compared to us."